The Good, The Good and the ...Well You'll See.

So Friday night was an interesting night. I spent a good majority of it phoning EVERYONE I knew. I started with my dad. It was weird because I got home really kinda early (about 5:40ish). So I wasn't sure who was going to be home yet in Kenora. And I thought that my dad was working nights, and he was really the next person I wanted to tell. So I phoned him anyways about 3 minutes after I walked into my apartment. I couldn't wait. And imagine my surprise when he actually picked up the phone on the second ring. So I said hi and asked how things were and he said he was feeling a bit better and should be back to work next week. Oh yeah I thought..... he hurt his hand at work about 2 weeks ago so it made sense he was at home. I asked him how his hand was feeling and he said it wasn't too bad. And I said that my hand hurt too, and he asked what happened and I said "Well someone put this big honkin' diamond on it and now it hurts!" And he got it right away. So he said congratulations and that he was very happy for Mike and I. And we talked for about a 1/2 hour more about stuff about the wedding like when and where. All that good stuff. I had actually interrupted his dinner so I told him I would let him finish eating and I will call him this week sometime. Then it was only about a 1/4 after 6 at that point and I was sure that my brother wouldn't be home yet, so I thought I would wait for about a half hour. Well that plan lasted about 10 minutes. I couldn't wait any longer. So I phoned his number and he was the one who answered. I thought how am I going to approach this. So I said "Guess what I am admiring right now?" And he asked what. I said "Our new surround sound system, you should se it it's pretty." He asked where we got it and how much and stuff like that. "Does it work good?" he asked and I said "Yeah you should see how it makes my new diamond ring bounce when the bass gets high." and he caught it right away and said he was happy for us and stuff and congratulations. And he said you "I'm going to let you tell Colleen yourself." So he put out her on the phone and I said hi and stuff and I asked her what she was doing in August of 2008? And she was like well nothing why where are we going? And I said to my wedding!!! And she was all excited and so cool about it. She was the best by far of the people I told. She was more excited then me almost. She just wanted to be planning the wedding already. It was funny. I told her that I already had a guest list that I made up last winter. It has about 160 people on it so far. And she said she couldn't wait to be in another wedding. Of course she will be in my wedding party. She will be second down the line. So we talked for like an hour. She wanted to know the colours and the motif if there was one. And if we were going to do it outdoors and all kinds of stuff. I told her about the monster sized bridal magazine that I bought and she was like well fold all the pages even buy some post its and stuff. It was so awesome! So I finally got off the phone with her at like 7:15 or so. Then I thought, who's next? I phone my best friend, Jana, she would be my maid of honour. So I phoned her at about 7:30 because it took me like forever to find her number on the net. And her hubby answered and I said hi to him and he always remembers my voice, he's a good guy. So he got Jana on the phone, and I told her the what right away, no surprises or anything and she was excited and I asked to be my maid of honour and she said absolutely. That's my girl though. She never lets me down. So we talked for an hour and a bit. About the wedding, about her mom getting sick and everything. We haven't talk to each other since last May. We talked about the wedding list and I told her that I had it done almost but I had to take off one very important name. And she said "Uncle Don?" and I said yeah. My Uncle Don was my godfather, and I know that if he were here he would be so happy for Mike and I. It was sad. But I knew wherever he was he was smiling and happy. And Jana said the same thing to me. I was just happy to get to talk to my best friend again. No one understands us that well. We have known each other since we were 12 years old and we only ever got to see each other twice or three times a year because we lived in different towns. But when we got together we are inseparable. She is the best person I know. I love her to death! She's always supportive no longer how long it's been since we have talked. We had instant best friend chemistry. And it's lasted 16 years. So I tried to call my cousin Hope after Jana but she wasn't home. She was the last on my list to talk to face to face. I didn't get to talk to her until about 11pm that night. she was great about it too. I asked her to be a bridesmaid too because if it wasn't for her Mike and I wouldn't have had a place to have sex! Hahahaha! Just kidding, well not really. When I first moved back to Winnipeg I lived at her house with her family. And when Mike and I had our first date I was staying at her place. So I owe her ALOT! So all my phone calls were done. Well I phoned my mom again after I talked to Jana. I never got off the phone all night. We had one more couple to tell and that was Zenon and Mel. So I phoned them on Saturday, and asked if they were going to be home. I said we had a social to go to in their end of the city (which was completely true) and that we would stop by and say hi if they had time. They just had a baby in December. He's a cutie pie. So they said that they would come over to our house instead so that was fine I had pizza that I was going to reheat for Mike and I but we had enough for all of us. Besides I haven't been really hungry. So they said they would come around 6:30 or so. Which means in Zenon talk 7ish. Mike was working and I had to drive him to work that day because I had a hair appointment with Janne and I told her too! She was cool about it and even said she would come to Kenora to do my hair. I got highlights in my red hair and they look awesome! I look more like a blonde with red highlights then the other way around. Anyways Mike and I got home and we didn't even get inside and settled on the couch for more then a few minutes and my phone rang, and it was my good friend Brandy on the phone yelling congratulations at me. It was funny! So we talked for a long time too, asking all the questions like colours, date and stuff. And she asked how many other there were to tell and I said just Zenon and Mel, because Mike told his parents at work on Friday. They weren't surprised though, they said they knew it was coming. Everyone said that to me too. I got alot "It's about time!" And worth the wait! So just as Brandy said "Well I better let you go, I bet Zenon is going to be there soon" and the other line beeped in. It was funny! So I signed off with her and went to the other line and it was gone. I guess someone let Zenon in. So they came upstairs and I let them get comfy and I was waiting for Mike to tell them, but he just kept making googley eyes at Benjamin (their baby boy) So I guess it was up to me. So I just held up my hand to Zenon and he was like "Really?" and they were all happy too. Mel was as good as Colleen. I think she's a wedding person like Colleen and I. She's the first person I got to show the bridal magazine to with all my picks and stuff in them. That was fun. She and I sat across the table from each other talking about weddings and Zenon and Mike sat across the table talking cars, just the way it was meant to be. So we finally decided that it was time to get ready for the social and they had to be getting Benjamin home. So Mike and I got changed and well my hair was already looking fabulous thanks to Janne, and we left about 15 minutes later. I was excited because this would be the first time I have gotten to see his family since he announced it. So we took a long time to get a parking spot, like 15 minutes. The social was for a 25th Wedding Anniversary for the parents of one of the kids that work for Mike's store. So we get there and waiting in line to get through the door and we see his Moms coming up to the door, I thought it was to come and see us, but it turns out she was going to put tickets into the silent auction prizes. I thought maybe she didn't see us. So we went over to her and she said congratulations, and asked to see the ring. She said it was very pretty and we hugged and it was sweet. So we went over to the table where her parents were sitting and his dad was talking to someone that another co-worker had brought with them. He said hi and kept on talking to this other person. Mike's mom and I are still kind of looking at the ring and talking. And Maria (the co-worker) came over to look and say congrats. His dad must have kept talking for a good 10 minutes after we got there, and then finally he turned to me across the table and said congrats and asked to see the ring, and said it was pretty, and congrats again. He even complimented my hair! I thought ok here we go he's going to ask something about when and where or say something wise and meaningful, but no. I thought ok whatever, it's loud in here and hard to talk over the music. So whatever, we asked when Mike's brother and his girlfriend and baby were getting there and they said that they just left. That's at almost 10pm. I thought why bother wrapping up a baby and 10 at night and dragging it out to a social. I thought it was stupid, but it's very typical of Jay and Laura to do that. That child is never at home for more then 2 hours at a time it seems. They just want to parade it EVERYWHERE! So they get there and come up to our table and we start shuffling around to accommodate all the room they are going to need and I turn around and they are sitting at another table completely. I thought well that's rude, and then not more then 5 minutes after that John (Mike's Dad) and Linda (his mom) get up and say that they are leaving. They had been there since 8:30 and by now it's like 11pm. I thought ok they are pissed that Jay and Laura went to sit at another table. But maybe not who knows. That family isn't exactly the most open family. So they get up to get ready to leave and then they all migrate to the table that Jay and Laura are at. They have their jackets on and went to say goodnight. I sat at the table by myself for like 5 minutes and decided to go over and say goodnight to Mike's parents and when I get there John comes up to me and takes me by the arm and I thought ok here we go he's actually going to want to talk to me about the engagement, nope! Not so much. He comes up to me and says "You have to see this it's amazing." The amazing thing......Logan (the baby) sleeping through noise. Well bestill my heart. (that's sarcasm) I get engaged and his family is impressed with the fact that they walked in with Logan and he is still asleep with all the noise around. I did my best to fake interest. I am really not a baby person. I never have been, so I have had to give the Oscar performance of my life since this kid has been born. As it is this baby was an accident, it wasn't planned on and I am pretty sure that if the baby wasn't in the picture neither would Laura. Who, coincidentally, thoroughly annoys me. So Mike's parents leave and Laura and Jay are sitting there at the table and they both ask to see the ring. And how pretty it is blah blah blah. No hugs no congrats or anything. But they are young maybe they don't know the proper thing to say. Although I have had younger people then them say congrats and show more interest. So Jay goes out for a smoke and Laura is holding the baby and stuff and all these people that used to work for the store came in. Some of them have never seen Logan before so it was exciting for them to get to see him. So I didn't say anything about Mike and I until they were all Logan'd out. Then one of them came up to me and asked what was new so I told her and she was all excited and congratsing Mike and I and asking all kinds of questions and stuff. Then when we went back to the table another girl that used to work for them was sitting there with her boyfriend and she says to me "Maria told me to ask you about the big news." So I showed her the ring and and she said congrats and asked the same questions and stuff. It was nice to get a little attention. Even if it wasn't from the in-laws to be. I told this girl that Jay and Laura were here with Logan at the other table so she went over to take a peek because she hadn't seen him yet neither. So we went over there and Laura is holding him and notices that he smells like poop like babies sometimes do and that she needs to go and change him, but she can't do it alone. You have had a baby for 4 months but you need help to change him still? Come on now. Jay had to carry the bag, the bag I might add that was the size of a somewhat oversized purse. It wasn't that big. They finally change him and come back and Mike and I were somewhere else when they came back and we turned around and both Jay and Laura are gone and Bree (the former co-worker) is holding the baby by herself. So Mike goes over there and we were like where are they and they both went out for a smoke. Whatever, but Mike I think was upset that they just left him without asking him to look after Logan. They came back and left about 2 minutes later. I bet they were there for a total of a 1/2 hour. Laura said she though John was mad at them for bringing Logan so late. I don't disagree with that. She was like "Well we never put him to bed until 12." I almost said that's retarded! He's 4 months old. He needs a bit more routine starting really soon or else you will never get him into it. She is so vacuous! They have been together for about 4 years now and she still calls Mike's parents Mr. & Mrs. Ashe. I mean really now, you have had their grandchild. I think you can use their first name. We left about a half hour later and I never really thought about what happened all that much until then. Then it really started to bother me. When we got home and Mike looked at me and asked if I was ok and I didn't really want to talk about it. So I went to go and get changed for bed and I was taking off my jewelry (except for the ring of course) and I was struggling to get my necklace off and getting more upset by the minute and Mike came in and gave me a hug and asked again what was wrong. And I said well how would you feel if your special day got usurped by the fact that a baby can sleep through noise? He said that was the way his family is. He was a provinicial level 200 Meter dash specialist in high school and his parent's never went to his one international event that he won. That didn't really make me feel better though. Then I started to cry. And I didn't stop for 5-10 minutes. I was devastated. I understand that your somewhat new grandchild was there but they completely missed the point that there first born just got engaged. It's a life altering decision. I felt bad for Mike, I mean here he is just got engaged and all his parent's said was well we saw that coming and what does the ring look like. I almost wish now that he hadn't said anything to them before he proposed. So I haven't really been as giddy as I would like to have been. But I got to tell my volleyball team on Sunday and they were all interested and congratulatory. And a few people that weren't here at work on friday got to find out today. Well that's my rant. And George thought my rants were going to be a bit happier now that I got what I have been waiting for! It almost was. I just should have stayed home on Saturday night. I don't think I have left anything out. Except a big thanks for the congrats Jenn!! I am still trying to find someone around here to take a pic of it to send out! That's it for me .....
J-BOMB OUT!